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Amusing Ourselves To Death, by Neil Postman

To hold accountability for myself (and to have a place to store all of the thoughts while reading the book, for help in scripting a final YouTube video (or multiple videos on each point)) here is where I list down all thoughts in the form of mini-essays and headings:


1. The Title

The title Amusing Ourselves to Death feels profoundly relevant, especially in todayโ€™s digital age, where entertainment has taken over nearly every aspect of life. Social media platforms, streaming services, and short-form content like reels and TikToks cater toโ€”and feed ontoโ€”our constant craving for amusement, often at the expense of critical thinking. It makes an already bad situation worse, and keeps on worsening it.

Much like Postmanโ€™s critique of television, modern digital tools prioritize instant gratification. Spectacle over depth and truth. Political campaigns are reduced to viral moments, news is sensationalized for clicks, and even education is gamified to maintain attention. Some things work to benefit, some to detriment.

In a time when distraction has become a cultural norm for all ages, the title underlines the stark reality: societyโ€™s over-reliance on amusement as a form of engagement risks trivializing important issues and eroding intellectual discourse, making Postmanโ€™s warning more urgent and relevant than ever.


2. Orwell vs Huxley

We were keeping our eye on 1984. When the year came and the prophecy didn’t, thoughtful Americans sang softly in praise of themselves. The roots of liberal democracy had held. Wher- ever else the terror had happened, we, at least, had not been visited by Orwellian nightmares.

But we had forgotten that alongside Orwell’s dark vision, there was another-slightly older, slightly less well known, equally chilling: Aldous Huxley’s Brave New World. Contrary to common belief even among the educated, Huxley and Orwell did not prophesy the same thing. Orwell warns that we will be overcome by an externally imposed oppression. But in Huxley’s vision, no Big Brother is required to deprive people of their autonomy, maturity and history. As he saw it, people will come to love their oppression, to adore the technologies that undo their capacities to think.

What Orwell feared were those who would ban books. What Huxley feared was that there would be no reason to ban a book, for there would be no one who wanted to read one. Orwell feared those who would deprive us of information. Huxley feared those who would give us so much that we would be reduced to passivity and egoism. Orwell feared that the truth would be concealed from us. Huxley feared the truth would be drowned in a sea of irrelevance. Orwell feared we would become a captive culture. Huxley feared we would become a trivial culture, preoccupied with some equivalent of the feelies, the orgy porgy, and the centrifugal bumblepuppy. As Huxley remarked in Brave New World Revisited, the civil libertarians and rationalists who are ever on the alert to oppose tyranny “failed to take into account man’s almost infinite appetite for distrac- tions.” In 1984, Huxley added, people are controlled by inflict- ing pain. In Brave New World, they are controlled by inflicting pleasure. In short, Orwell feared that what we hate will ruin us. Huxley feared that what we love will ruin us.

This book is about the possibility that Huxley, not Orwell, was right.

In the Foreword of Amusing Ourselves To Death, by Neil Postman

(create flowcharts for different mechanism, same end result)

Neil Postman juxtaposes the dystopian visions of George Orwellโ€™s 1984 and Aldous Huxleyโ€™s Brave New World to contextualize his argument about the dangers of media-driven culture. While both authors warned of the same end result (i.e. societies losing their freedom and hence, humanity), they envisioned different mechanisms for this decline. 

Orwell’s 1984: External Oppression by Force 
Orwell imagined a society dominated by authoritarian regimes that use force and censorship to suppress ideas and control people. Truth is actively distorted. Individuality is crushed under a surveillance state. Fear ensures obedience. Punishment and propaganda are used as whips to keep citizens in line.

Huxley’s Brave New World: Internal Oppression by Pleasure 
Huxley wrote of a society enslaved by its own desires and distractions. In his world, truth and critical thinking are irrelevant because people are pacified by endless entertainment, consumerism, and indulgence in pleasure. Individuals willingly surrender their autonomy because they are too distracted or content to care about deeper issues.

Which one of these dystopias feel closer to present day home? Are people not reading books because they’re banned by the government, or are they not reading books because they can’t, because it’s just that difficult, because there’s better (read as: easier, more pleasurable) things to do? You spend 8 hours on Instagram or Tik tok or Twitter or YouTube or your chosen drug and do you remember all that you saw? Is that how you want to be spending your 8 hours? Thoughtlessly, mindlessly, with zero intentionality. (Refer to: how in Flow the author writes that even leisure time should have intentional structure for it to be enjoyable.)

Our passive surrender to pleasure and trivial amusements is what has made critical thinking obsolete.

(simplified: carrot vs stick)


3. Reframing of the meaning of pleasure and leisure

Comment on Flow: The Psychology of Optimal Experience, by Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi, and how he writes that even leisure time needs a certain degree of structure for it to be beneficial for you. Pleasure has completely changed its meaning. We don’t find that many things funny lately. Our standards have lowered. Even mildly amusing is deemed as valuable enough to occupy our time.

(past vs present, how the meaning of pleasure has changed for us)


(references or further reading/watching)

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2021 reading reading& writing

List: Books I Read in 2022! [58]

  • January = 7
  • February = 3
  • March = 6
  • April = 6
  • May = 8
  • June = 9
  • July = 4
  • August = 4
  • September = 4
  • October = 3
  • November = 3
  • December = 1
  • Total = 58

January 2022

1 // Life of the Party: Poems (Olivia Gatwood, 2019)

1 // New American Best Friend (Olivia Gatwood, 2017)

15 // The Hitchhiker’s Guide to the Galaxy (Douglas Adams, 1979)

16 // Memory Minefield (Mel Torrefranca, 2022)

22 // The Restaurant at the End of the Universe (Douglas Adams, 1980)

28 // Life, The Universe and Everything (Douglas Adams, 1982)

28 // In Praise of Older Women: The Amorous Recollections of Andrรกs Vajda (Stephen Vizinczey, 1966)


February 2022

6 // The Song of Achilles (Madeline Miller, 2011)

10 // In Praise of Slow (Carl Honorรฉ, 2004)

23 // Insatiable: Pornโ€“A Love Story (Asa Akira, 2014)


March 2022

4 // How To Think More About Sex (Alain de Botton, 2012)

6 // The Art of Asking (Amanda Palmer, 2014)

6 // The 5 AM Club (Robin Sharma, 2018)

6 // The Velveteen Rabbit (Margery Williams, 1922)

9 // The Silent Patient (Alex Michaelides, 2019)

10 // Hell Yeah or Noโ€”Whatโ€™s Worth Doing (Derek Sivers, 2020)


April 2022

1 // The Emperor of All Maladies (Siddhartha Mukherjee, 2010)

4 // Ten Drugs: How Plants, Powders, and Pills Have Shaped the History of Medicine (Thomas Hager, 2019)

4 // Gamify: How Gamification Motivates People to Do Extraordinary Things (Brian Burke, 2014)

6 // How to Make Love Like a Porn Star (Jenna Jameson and Neil Strauss, 2004)

16 // The Crying Book (Heather Christle, 2019)

29 // Learn More, Study Less (Scott Young, 2010)


May 2022

1 // So Long, and Thanks for All the Fish (Douglas Adams, 1984)

2 // Acts of Desperation (Megan Nolan, 2021)

8 // The Giver (Lois Lowry, 1993)

8 // The Art of Death (David Fennell, 2021)

14 // Art of Loving (Erich Fromm, 1956)

19 // What Are You Going Through (Sigrid Nunez, 2020)

27 // Mostly Harmless (Douglas Adams, 2018)

29 // The Talent Code: Greatness Isn’t Born. It’s Grown. Here’s How. (Daniel Coyle, 2009)


June 2022

3 // Ikigai: The Japanese Secret to a Long and Happy Life (Francesc Miralles and Hector Garcia, 2016)

11 // Verity (Colleen Hoover, 2018)

15 // The Seven Husbands of Evelyn Hugo (Taylor Jenkins Reid, 2017)

16 // Dirty Little Secrets: Breaking the Silence on Teenage Girls and Promiscuity (Kerry Cohen, 2011)

18 // Do No Harm (Henry Marsh, 2014)

21 // Boy Parts (Eliza Clark, 2020)

25 // Hyperfocus: How to Work Less to Achieve More (Chris Bailey, 2018)

25 // Pole Dancing, Empowerment and Embodiment (Samantha Holland, 2010)

30 // When Breath Becomes Air (Paul Kalanithi, 2016)


July 2022

2 July // Delta of Venus (Anais Nin, 1977)

8 July // The Comfort Crisis: Embrace Discomfort To Reclaim Your Wild, Happy, Healthy Self (Michael Easter, 2021)

10 July // No Matter the Wreckage (Sarah Kay, 2014)

24 July // Heartburn (Nora Ephron, 1983)


August 2022

15 Aug // Toxin (Robin Cook, 1998)

21 Aug // Slow Days, Fast Company (Eve Babitz, 1977)

22 Aug // Sex and Rage (Eve Babitz, 1979)

28 Aug // Orange Is The New Black (Piper Kerman, 2010)


September 2022

2 Sept // Bunny (Mona Awad, 2019)

16 Sept // My Year of Rest and Relaxation (Ottessa Moshfegh, 2018)

17 Sept // Ultralearning: Master Hard Skills, Outsmart the Competition, and Accelerate Your Career (Scott H. Young, 2019)

21 Sept // Mating in Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligence (Esther Perel, 2006)


October 2022

15 Oct // The Life-Changing Magic of Not Giving a F*ck (Sarah Knight, 2015)

27 Oct // Everything Sad Is Untrue: (A True Story) (Daniel Nayeri, 2020)

28 Oct // The Man Who Mistook His Wife for a Hat (Oliver Sacks, 1985)


November 2022

15 Nov // An Illustrated Journey: Inspiration From the Private Art Journals of Traveling Artists, Illustrators and Designers (Danny Gregory, 2013)

21 Nov // Man’s Search for Ultimate Meaning (Viktor Frankl, 1997)

25 Nov // Men Without Women (Haruki Murakami, 2014)


December 2022

11 Dec // Zen And the Art of Happiness (Chris Prentiss, 2006)


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Quit Playing Cool by Vlad Holiday

You know how every once in a while you come across something so beautiful that you feel so many emotions about it that you just have to go ahead and write about it? The beauty of something stirs you into creation, into composition.

The song Quit Playing Cool by Vlad Holiday as sent to me by my parabatai did that for us, for both of us. And we both wrote things, that turned out to be wildly different from each other, and yet relating to the same emotions of longing and yearning.

I’d thought of writing a page for every verse in the song. But lo, that didn’t work out and here we have only one page, with seemingly abstract terms and phrases and emotions.

This again catalysed a realisation. We just write what we’re feeling inside of our hearts. When we’re hurt, then even if we were to sit to write about love, we’d end up rhyming of heartbreak and ache. When in love, even death feels poetic. It’s not the content of the topic at hand that makes us feel, but the emotions stirring inside of us. All my writing from a specific phase of a hyperfixation on a person or policy resembles each other, even when dealing with a variety of topics. Yeah.

Another thing is that this feeds my admiration for boudoir photo and videography. Boudoir photography is a form of professional photography that is intimate, flattering the curves and beauty of the client’s body. Boudoir, which is French for a woman’s private dressing room, inspires the intimacy of this genre of photography. And I may or may not be experimenting with this genre.

Anyway. Here it is. Here’s the song:

[Verse 1]
I like how you dance
When youโ€™re by yourself
A bottle of wine
Dreaming of dirty things
Make me stay the night
Like you want to
Let me help you lose your mind
Like you want to

[Chorus]
Quit playing cool, I like you
Forever baby
Iโ€™ll stick with you, like I should
Forever baby

[Verse 2]
Youโ€™re a shimmer of wavering light
When itโ€™s too dark to see
And youโ€™ve made me come to terms
With my mortality, baby
Kiss me till you bite
Like you want to
Letโ€™s fuck all through the night
Like you want to

Quit playing cool, I like you
Forever baby
Iโ€™ll stick with you, like I should
Forever baby

Forever baby

Live young โ€˜till we die
Like you want to
Letโ€™s fuck all through the night
Like you want to


And here is my parabatai: (I LOVE THIS SO MUCH AAH)

An empty hotel room. Clean sheets. Bare closets. Open windows. A lone ashtray sitting on the table.

She imitates the room, stripping naked.

Cherry red heels strewn across the bathroom floor. They almost look abandoned next to the bucket of wine. The window above the bathtub lets in a soft mellow light, light that dances with the soap on her skin.

Why does the sun feel better on skin that is bare? Why does the air feel like a living, physical presence when she slides out of all her different layers?

The curtains feel softer against her palm, The wood coarser under her gliding fingertips.

The bed more inviting by the moment. Like starving hands eager to trace every curve, every freckle.

And why does it feel better than being touched by another?

In this room, in this space, she is the centre of everything.

Like a top let loose, she can spin on her feet, hands above her head she can spin all she wants.

Knowing she is worshipped by the air, the curtains, the bed, the mirror, the ashtray and even her own red heels.

Oh the sensation!

To dance, to sway, to stretch and turn, to feel every movement of her body as she commands it.

As the light fades outside, she too slips into something darker. Going from soft skin to pulled up hair and long black earrings.

From the sun warm and bright to a single yellow lamp, casting seductive shadows on her body.

From detached silence to a song blasting on the radio.

Desire had never felt more real or more futile.

But as she left the room, her scent lingered in the air with the promise of that desire.

Desire so intense that even the song yearned for her.


And here’s me: (i only kinda like this. wanted to extend it, but ok. it’s a mess, idk, i’m not answerable. i had fun writing it. the all new format was fun.)

the door opensโ€”(and my death it is)โ€”her in a bathtubโ€”(or was it you?)โ€”why do i look at youโ€”(and think of her)โ€”you’re singing of desireโ€”(making it rise in me)โ€”your legs shapely, perfectโ€”(or is it my love, my imagination?)โ€”i don’t know what i am writingโ€”(do i need to?)โ€”i don’t know if you love me or notโ€”(i don’t want to)โ€”i am happy in my fantasiesโ€”(there’s you, there’s me, there’s us)โ€”what is the meaning of loveโ€”(your red plastic heels in my hands)โ€”your hands soapyโ€”(do they look sexier on the flesh of my skin or gliding across the flat wooden vastness of the table?)โ€”why do you have to be this wayโ€”(how do you make me be like this?)โ€”why can’t you love me backโ€”(do i want you to?)โ€”why do you kill meโ€”(kiss me already, for fuck’s sake)โ€”let’s lie in the bed together like thousands before us have and drink wine off each other’s skinsโ€”(let’s name it a new emotion)โ€”let’s call our love something elseโ€”(and maybe it will be spared, maybe we will be spared)


(oh, will you just look at these gorgeous shots ๐Ÿ˜ณ)

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2021 reading reading& writing

List: Books I Read in 2021! [87]

  • January = 6
  • February = 2
  • March = 7
  • April = 6
  • May = 21
  • June = 18
  • July = 5
  • August = 4
  • September = 1
  • October = 5
  • November = 10
  • December = 2
  • Total = 87

January 2021

3 // Trigger Warning (Neil Gaiman, 2015)

13 // Fahrenheit 451 (Ray Bradbury, 1953)

16 // The Filter Bubble: What The Internet Is Hiding From You (Eli Pariser, 2011)

23 // Notes from Underground (Fyodor Dostoevsky, 1864)

26 // Sapiens: A Brief History of Humankind (Yuval Noah Harari, 2011)

31 // The Lost Book of the White (Cassandra Clare and Wesley Chu, 2020)


February 2021

7 // On Earth We’re Briefly Gorgeous (Ocean Vuong, 2019)

17 // Clean – Expanded Edition: The Revolutionary Program to Restore the Body’s Natural Ability to Heal Itself (Alejandro Junger and Amely Greeven, 2009)


March 2021

10 // Walden (Henry David Thoreau, 1854)

15 // Chain of Gold (Cassandra Clare, 2020)

23 // Originals: How Non-Conformists Move the World (Adam Grant, 2016)

25 // Legendary Flexibility (Jujimufu, 2017)

27 // Homo Deus: A Brief History of Tomorrow (Yuval Noah Harari, 2015) 

28 // Ella Minnow Pea (Mark Dunn, 2001)

28 // Make It Stick (Peter C. Brown, Henry L. Roediger III, Mark A. McDaniel, 2014)

7 // If on a Winter’s Night a Traveler (Italo Calvino, 1979)


April 2021

9 // Deep Work: Rules for Focused Success in a Distracted World (Cal Newport, 2016) 

12 // How to Win at College: Surprising Secrets for Success from the Country’s Top Students (Cal Newport, 2005)

15 // Make Time: How to Focus on What Matters Every Day (Jake Knapp and John Zeratsky, 2018) 

20 // The Metamorphosis (Franz Kafka, 1915) 

29 // The State of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity (Esther Perel, 2017)


May 2021

1 // How to Become a Straight-A Student: The Unconventional Strategies Real College Students Use to Score High While Studying Less (Cal Newport, 2006)

4 // Stiff: The Curious Lives of Human Cadavers (Mary Roach, 2003)

6 // Difficult Loves (Italo Calvino, 1970)

6 // Why Read the Classics? (Italo Calvino, 1991)

7 // Human Errors: A Panorama of Our Glitches, from Pointless Bones to Broken Genes (Nathan H. Lents, 2018)

8 // Show Your Work! (Austin Kleon, 2014)

10 // How to Use Graphic Design to Sell Things, Explain Things, Make Things Look Better, Make People Laugh, Make People Cry, and (every Once in a While) Change the World (Michael Bierut, 2015)

12 // Atomic Habits: An Easy & Proven Way to Build Good Habits & Break Bad Ones (James Clear, 2018)

16 // Crush (Richard Siken, 2005)

16 // How to Do Nothing: Resisting the Attention Economy (Jenny Odell, 2019)

17 // The Complete Short Stories of Sherlock Holmes (Arthur Conan Doyle, 1892)

17 // Great Goddesses: Life Lessons from Myths and Monsters (Nikita Gill, 2019)

18 // Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man, Expanded Edition: What Men Really Think About Love, Relationships, Intimacy, and Commitment (Steve Harvey, 2009)

18 // Essentialism: The Disciplined Pursuit of Less (Greg McKeown, 2014)

20 // When: The Scientific Secrets of Perfect Timing (Daniel H. Pink, 2018)

20 // Keep Going: 10 Ways to Stay Creative in Good Times and Bad (Austin Kleon, 2019)

20 // Steal Like an Artist (Austin Kleon, 2012)

24 // The Exact Opposite of Okay (Laura Steven, 2018)

29 // Daily Rituals: How Artists Work (Mason Currey, 2013)

29 // Conscious Loving: The Journey to Co-commitment (Gay Hendricks and Kathlyn Hendricks, 1990)

31 // Little Weirds (Jenny Slate, 2019)


June 2021

1 // Ignore Everybody: And 39 Other Keys to Creativity (Hugh Macleod, 2009)

3 // The Book of Delights: Essays (Ross Gay, 2019)

4 // Cosmicomics (Italo Calvino, 1965)

4 // Hands-On Chaos Magic: Reality Manipulation Through the Ovayki Current (Andrieh Vitimus, 2009)

5 // Ten Arguments for Deleting Your Social Media Accounts Right Now (Jaron Lanier, 2018)

6 // How to Think Like Leonardo Da Vinci (Michael J. Gelb, 1998)

6 // Pride and Prejudice (Jane Austen, 1813)

6 // Do the Work (Steven Pressfield, 2011)

10 // Let It Out: A Journey Through Journaling (Katie Dalebout, 2016)

13 // The Sun and Her Flowers (Rupi Kaur, 2017)

15 // The Princess Saves Herself in This One (Amanda Lovelace, 2016)

15 // Our Men Do Not Belong To Us (Warsan Shire, 2014)

15 // Teaching My Mother How To Give Birth (Warsan Shire, 2011)

17 // Wild Embers: Poems of Rebellion, Fire and Beauty (Nikita Gill, 2017)

17 // Your Soul Is a River (Nikita Gill, 2016)

17 // 101 Essays That Will Change the Way You Think (Brianna Wiest, 2016)

19 // Chain of Iron (Cassandra Clare, 2021)

23 // I Would Leave Me If I Could: A Collection of Poetry (Halsey, 2020)


July 2021

11 // The 4-Hour Workweek (Tim Ferriss, 2007)

12 // The Shallows: What the Internet Is Doing to Our Brains (Nicholas G. Carr, 2010)

12 // Depression & Other Magic Tricks (Sabrina Benaim, 2017)

23 // Mr. Penumbra’s 24-Hour Bookstore (Robin Sloan, 2012)

31 // Do Hard Things: A Teenage Rebellion Against Low Expectations (Alex Harris and Brett Harris, 2008)


August 2021

20 // The Memory Keeper’s Daughter (Kim Edwards, 2005)

21 // Yesterday I Was The Moon (Noor Unnahar, 2017)

30 // The Picture of Dorian Gray (Oscar Wilde, 1890)

30 // Hold Your Own (Kate Tempest, 2014)


September 2021

12 // Will Grayson, Will Grayson (David Levithan and John Green, 2010)


October 2021

14 // 1984 (George Orwell, 1949)

15 // Flights (Olga Tokarczuk, 2007)

19 // F.U. Money (Dan Lok, 2009)

26 // Creative Journal Writing: The Art and Heart of Reflection (Stephanie Dowrick, 2007)

28 // The Meaning Of Things (Eugene Halton and Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi, 1981)


November 2021

4 // 40 Alternatives to College (James Altucher, 2012)

5 // Choose Yourself! Be Happy, Make Millions, Live the Dream (James Altucher, 2013)

6 // How to Disappear: Erase Your Digital Footprint, Leave False Trails, And Vanish Without A Trace (Eileen C. Horan and Frank Ahearn, 2010)

7 // Drive: The Surprising Truth About What Motivates Us (Daniel H. Pink, 2009)

12 // Super Immunity: The Essential Nutrition Guide for Boosting Your Body’s Defenses to Live Longer, Stronger, and Disease Free (Joel Fuhrman, 2011)

12 // On Writing Well (William Zinsser, 1976)

13 // How to Build a Memory Palace (Sjur Midttun, 2016)

13 // 10 Steps to Earning Awesome Grades (While Studying Less) (Thomas Frank, 2015)

13 // The Art of Discarding: How to Get Rid of Clutter and Find Joy (Nagisa Tatsumi, 2017)

17 // Cobalt Blue (Sachin Kundalkar, 2013)


December 2021

10th December: I’m proud to say: none. (As I had decided to read no books for December to prioritise academics.)

18th December: Lmao no, I slipped, here’s one. 175 pages, read in a day:

18 // Slutever: Dispatches from a Sexually Autonomous Woman in a Post-Shame World (Karley Sciortino, 2018)

31st December: lol here’s another:

31 // Indistractable: How to Control Your Attention and Choose Your Life (Nir Eyal, 2019)


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2021 reading reading& writing

List: Books I Read in 2020! [Post-NEET]

  • October = 9
  • November = 5
  • December = 6
  • Total = 20

October

2 // Eve’s Hollywood (Eve Babitz, 1974)

3 // Damn Good Advice (George Lois, 2012)


5 // Origin (Dan Brown, 2017)


11 // A Thousand Splendid Suns (Khaled Hosseini, 2007)


13 // Ways of Seeing (John Berger, 1972)


21 // Call Me By Your Name (Andre Aciman, 2007)


23 // Find Me (Andre Aciman, 2019)


23 // Next (Michael Crichton, 2006)


31 // Flow: The Psychology of Optimal Experience (Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi, 1990)


November

3 // The Red Scrolls of Magic (Cassandra Clare and Wesley Chu, 2019)


9 // The Ethical Slut (Dossie Easton and Janet Hardy, 1997)


14 // Circe (Madeline Miller, 2018)


15 // Digital Fortress (Dan Brown, 1998)


25 // Shantaram (Gregory David Roberts, 2003)


December

2 // The Lost Symbol (Dan Brown, 2009)


14 // Life of Pi (Yann Martel, 2001)


15 // Vagina: A New Biography (Naomi Wolf, 2012)


18 // Digital Minimalism: Choosing a Focused Life in a Noisy World (Cal Newport, 2019)


18 // The Bloody Chamber and Other Stories (Angela Carter, 1979)


22 // Handmade: Focus in the Age of Distraction (Gary Rogowski, 2017)

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