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Amusing Ourselves To Death, by Neil Postman

To hold accountability for myself (and to have a place to store all of the thoughts while reading the book, for help in scripting a final YouTube video (or multiple videos on each point)) here is where I list down all thoughts in the form of mini-essays and headings:


1. The Title

The title Amusing Ourselves to Death feels profoundly relevant, especially in todayโ€™s digital age, where entertainment has taken over nearly every aspect of life. Social media platforms, streaming services, and short-form content like reels and TikToks cater toโ€”and feed ontoโ€”our constant craving for amusement, often at the expense of critical thinking. It makes an already bad situation worse, and keeps on worsening it.

Much like Postmanโ€™s critique of television, modern digital tools prioritize instant gratification. Spectacle over depth and truth. Political campaigns are reduced to viral moments, news is sensationalized for clicks, and even education is gamified to maintain attention. Some things work to benefit, some to detriment.

In a time when distraction has become a cultural norm for all ages, the title underlines the stark reality: societyโ€™s over-reliance on amusement as a form of engagement risks trivializing important issues and eroding intellectual discourse, making Postmanโ€™s warning more urgent and relevant than ever.


2. Orwell vs Huxley

We were keeping our eye on 1984. When the year came and the prophecy didn’t, thoughtful Americans sang softly in praise of themselves. The roots of liberal democracy had held. Wher- ever else the terror had happened, we, at least, had not been visited by Orwellian nightmares.

But we had forgotten that alongside Orwell’s dark vision, there was another-slightly older, slightly less well known, equally chilling: Aldous Huxley’s Brave New World. Contrary to common belief even among the educated, Huxley and Orwell did not prophesy the same thing. Orwell warns that we will be overcome by an externally imposed oppression. But in Huxley’s vision, no Big Brother is required to deprive people of their autonomy, maturity and history. As he saw it, people will come to love their oppression, to adore the technologies that undo their capacities to think.

What Orwell feared were those who would ban books. What Huxley feared was that there would be no reason to ban a book, for there would be no one who wanted to read one. Orwell feared those who would deprive us of information. Huxley feared those who would give us so much that we would be reduced to passivity and egoism. Orwell feared that the truth would be concealed from us. Huxley feared the truth would be drowned in a sea of irrelevance. Orwell feared we would become a captive culture. Huxley feared we would become a trivial culture, preoccupied with some equivalent of the feelies, the orgy porgy, and the centrifugal bumblepuppy. As Huxley remarked in Brave New World Revisited, the civil libertarians and rationalists who are ever on the alert to oppose tyranny “failed to take into account man’s almost infinite appetite for distrac- tions.” In 1984, Huxley added, people are controlled by inflict- ing pain. In Brave New World, they are controlled by inflicting pleasure. In short, Orwell feared that what we hate will ruin us. Huxley feared that what we love will ruin us.

This book is about the possibility that Huxley, not Orwell, was right.

In the Foreword of Amusing Ourselves To Death, by Neil Postman

(create flowcharts for different mechanism, same end result)

Neil Postman juxtaposes the dystopian visions of George Orwellโ€™s 1984 and Aldous Huxleyโ€™s Brave New World to contextualize his argument about the dangers of media-driven culture. While both authors warned of the same end result (i.e. societies losing their freedom and hence, humanity), they envisioned different mechanisms for this decline. 

Orwell’s 1984: External Oppression by Force 
Orwell imagined a society dominated by authoritarian regimes that use force and censorship to suppress ideas and control people. Truth is actively distorted. Individuality is crushed under a surveillance state. Fear ensures obedience. Punishment and propaganda are used as whips to keep citizens in line.

Huxley’s Brave New World: Internal Oppression by Pleasure 
Huxley wrote of a society enslaved by its own desires and distractions. In his world, truth and critical thinking are irrelevant because people are pacified by endless entertainment, consumerism, and indulgence in pleasure. Individuals willingly surrender their autonomy because they are too distracted or content to care about deeper issues.

Which one of these dystopias feel closer to present day home? Are people not reading books because they’re banned by the government, or are they not reading books because they can’t, because it’s just that difficult, because there’s better (read as: easier, more pleasurable) things to do? You spend 8 hours on Instagram or Tik tok or Twitter or YouTube or your chosen drug and do you remember all that you saw? Is that how you want to be spending your 8 hours? Thoughtlessly, mindlessly, with zero intentionality. (Refer to: how in Flow the author writes that even leisure time should have intentional structure for it to be enjoyable.)

Our passive surrender to pleasure and trivial amusements is what has made critical thinking obsolete.

(simplified: carrot vs stick)


3. Reframing of the meaning of pleasure and leisure

Comment on Flow: The Psychology of Optimal Experience, by Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi, and how he writes that even leisure time needs a certain degree of structure for it to be beneficial for you. Pleasure has completely changed its meaning. We don’t find that many things funny lately. Our standards have lowered. Even mildly amusing is deemed as valuable enough to occupy our time.

(past vs present, how the meaning of pleasure has changed for us)


(references or further reading/watching)

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How To Read More: 3 Concepts

1. Make It Your Default Activity

When bored or waiting, we invariably find ourselves resorting to our default device i.e. our phones. The endlessly refreshable, scrollable, swipable feeds are stimulating. 5 minutes become 2 hours.

Instead consider this alternate scenario if you aim to read more books for your own good: You’re bored and you have a book on hand. You read half a page. You read a whole page. Then a chapter. Even if you were to stop at half a page, it would still have been fine, considering that’s half a page more than what you’d otherwise have read.

Read on your commute. Read in class. Read before sleeping. Read right after waking up.

Just replace 30% of the times you take the phone with taking a book and you’ll be amazed. Just choose reading your default. Make it your choice of chilling.

2. Decrease Visual Content Consumption

We consume so much these days. TV shows, web series, memes, reels, what not. In and in and in. On and on and on. But there’s only a limit, right? There’s only so much one can take in.

And if you’re neck-deep saturated with visual media, then there’s no room for other things. You need to make room. You need to remove things from your plate before you can add more. Elimination before addition.

Try to limit/decrease/nullify your visual media consumption and there will be space for the old school books on its own. You’ll find yourself naturally gravitating towards the pages. And that’s how it should be. A natural leaning in towards reading, not forcing yourself to read.

3. Read Multiple Books Parallelly

At any point of time, if you were to ask me what am I reading, more often than not, I’ll start spewing a list of books. Three in the least, generally five.

Why? Why read multiple books parallelly?

Because we crave variety. Different things at different times.

I may be sad and want to read poetry. I may want to motivate myself and read self-help. I may want to read a slow book. A big book. A fiction book. A safe book. A page turner. A cliff-hanger. Oh my, so much variety! Different moods warrant different types of text as being pleasurable, enjoyable.

As for me, I generally have a big, heavy one + a motivational thingy relevant to academics + an easy, light read that I can turn to even if I’m tired AF. These going parallelly.

Right now, here are the ones I’m reading, with their contexts as they concern me:

1. Hyperfocus: How to Work Less to Achieve More (by Chris Bailey)

Read one section before sitting down to study to clear my head and keep the high up.


2. No Matter the Wreckage (by Sarah Kay)

Read to write. I read poems in here to open the gate of emotions and words inside me so that I can write poems. Yeah. Works.


3. No Sweat: How the Simple Science of Motivation Can Bring You a Lifetime of Fitness (by Michelle Segar)

I read anything in here and am convinced to go work out.


4. Pole Dancing, Empowerment and Embodiment (by Samantha Holland)

Started for obvious reasons. Interesting, if only a little too academic, read so far.


5. The Lupus Book (by Daniel J. Wallace)

After The Emperor Of All Maladies by Siddhartha Mukherjee, I’ve found that reading a book on the disease/disorder/topic you’re interested in, makes you infinitely more receptive for the textbook content on the topic and it somehow makes you like the topic.


6. The Daily Stoic (by Ryan Holiday)

Ah. It’s a slow read and I’m now enjoying it so this has been an ongoing book since a couple of months.


7. How Not to Die (by Gene Stone and Michael Greger)

Oh my, 800 page book. I’m halfway through and tbvh, it has kinda gotten repetitive at this point. Meat bad, plant good, eat nuts. But yeah, let’s see. Slow read again. Ongoing since a couple of months.

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On Quitting Books.

I was a compulsive finisherโ€”until I gave myself the permission to quit books I wasn’t enjoying.

We get too carried away in trying to tick off boxes and marking things as finished. As a principle, I didn’t tend to leave books midway. I considered it as a commitment to follow through to the last page. I am my beloved’s, and my beloved is mine, I’ll hold her hand cover to cover and beyond.

Too romantic, eh? Nah. A strange parallel clicked in place once when I was thinking about this. This commitment had the same levels of toxicity as following through with a bad relationship for 5 years. It’s bad for you, and you know it, and yet somehow for a multitude of reasons, you can’t seem to drop it.

A major part of the reason being societal pressure in one form or the other. Society-induced pressure that we put on ourselves. Of having an impressive number of books to have been read. Of being able to put a number on your Goodreads profile.

Life is too short to drag yourself through mediocre reads anyway.

Just over ten years after that fall in Paris, I finally stopped being a compulsive book finisher. Iโ€™d learned two things in particular that helped me quit. One, I realized literally NO ONE cares if I give up on a book except me. (And maybe the author, if I told them, which I wouldnโ€™t do becauseโ€ฆno.) Two, I realized that Iโ€™m going to die.

Jake Wilder, here

Quit more to read more!

(Will continue the thoughts of this one in the next one about reading less, but reading better, whenever that comes along. Until then, see ya and ciao!)


Further reading:

Why You Should Quit As Many Books As You Finish by Rosie Leizrowice, here.

Itโ€™s Okay to Give Up on Mediocre Books Because Weโ€™re All Going to Die by Janet Frishberg, here.

No One Cares How Many Books You Read by Jake Wilder, here.


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I’m willing to suck at chess.

[This is mostly just for me. A reminder for myself. Maybe some sentences might seem in contradiction on the superficial level, but since they are all a part of my belief system, they’re all aligned with one another on a deeper note.]

I’m willing to suck at chess for a while. 

The climb can be hard, but it doesn’t have to suck. You have to have fun along the way up the hill. That’s what I’m aiming at.

Getting better at chess? Yes, sure, I want to. But I wouldn’t mind if that’s just a consequence of having fun while I’m at it. 

But then again, maybe to actually get to at it, I’ll have to put in the necessary number of hours and efforts and play to win, instead just for fun? I don’t know. I’ll see, I’ll figure it out. 

My mom pointed this out in me. Currently even, I do sure play to win but I just don’t want it that hard, y’know? You shouldn’t just be playing, you have to compete.

  • Be someone who plays chess, not someone who sucks at it. Make the game a part of your identity, not the rating. Don’t keep saying to yourself that you suck at it. That will only make it a part of your identity. On the same note, I think I have to change my own narrative too. Since a year now, I have “been trying to learn chess”. I’ll have to change that to “been learning chess” now. Slow and steady, make it a part of your identity. 
  • It’s okay to suck as a beginner. The trick is to stick long enough with it to actually get better at it. Most people quit at the beginner stage (where the progress is slightly difficult and requires efforts) or at the plateau stage of learning (where the progress begins to stall). Whenever you’re starting something new anyway, you’ll suck at it and it’ll be a terrible blow to your ego always. Learn to see beyond it. Learn to fight and persist despite the blows. 10,000 hours. You need to put them in to learn any skill. Honest 10,000 hours of efforts. Don’t quit, let it hurt your ego. You can only get better at something, by sucking at it first. It’s okay if you fail, the trick is to keep at it. Hamesha comfort zone mein thodi rehna hh. Losing takes guts. Trying takes guts.
  • Maybe you lose, yeah. So? Maybe you lose a lot. So? So what? Don’t let it bother you too much. Don’t let it get in the way of you trying. Don’t let it let you quit trying. Fuck you, and fuck your ego. 
  • Think long-term.
  • It’s intense, mate.

I’m willing to suck at chess for a while to get better at it. 

//Playing OTB chess at our college’s sports week was so fun! Even though I got eliminated in the first round itself. But okay. I’m learning. The experience was great.//

Interested people can read more about the cognitive benefits of playing chess here. Its written by me only for the site that I’m doing a reward driven content writing internship.

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Why don’t I post?

I don’t know, I believe it’s just simpler that way. Personally. Atleast for me, it is.

The primary reason is: I fear context collapse. Like, the pictures and captions I’d use for close friends differ very wildly from the ones I’d use for college friends or for family or for cousins or from casual acquaintances. Everyone gets different parts of you. There’s no general way I can be that’s appropriate for everyone, without dulling certain aspects of me, without cutting away certain parts of me. And I don’t wanna do that. So I don’t post. So that every time talking with anyone, new or old, I’m free to pick which parts of me do I wanna show and focus on.

Like, yes, obviously I do want people to know that I can hold a headstand, but no, thank you, I would not put up a picture for anyone (including a certain slightly creepy guy from eight grade) to look at. Instead of being careful about who I let into my circle of updates (which would require so much vigilance and which wouldn’t work out anyway), I would prefer to let everyone in and avoid putting myself up.

I do keep the occasional stories though. The temporariness of them takes my concerns away.

I wouldn’t want my family to see me the same way my friends do, right? And I interact with a lot of different people in a lot of different ways, both (semi) professionally and personally. I’d like everyone to come up with a blank slate for me to write on. This way I can put up a different side of me for everyone according to the context, and that’s great. That even helps me with developing my own sense of self by letting me variate and experiment with a multitude of different ways.

And capitally, I like the freeness that comes with clicking pictures and not them having to be “IG worthy.” It lets me click pictures for the sake of memories. Idk, it’s probably because I don’t trust myself with something as addictive as IG. Maybe I think I have terrible self control. Maybe I’m afraid that I’ll lose myself once I start putting myself up. Whatever it is, I don’t. And that’s okay. The only thing because of not posting that has happened is I’ve just gotten hella number of questions till date, just that, nothing else.

And one more thing: no one notices if you don’t post, and no one cares. So I rather do what I would prefer more, send direct pictures to the ones I want knowing about it. My people that is. The ones who care. The ones who are genuinely interested in what I’ve been upto and not just who click on my story just because it’s there. I never want to be anyone’s “just because it’s there.”

I like some aspects of my life private, because so much of me is already public. I’m way too revealing IRL, and to keep a balance, I avoid being so virtually. Keeping some things about me to myself helps me preserve my sense of self.

And it takes too much time. Too much time, too many efforts go into these things once you start posting. Idk about anyone else, but if I start, I’ll fall down in the black hole of editing and curating and filtering. I would rather instead prefer to put that time and mental energy somewhere else. That’s another reason.

I don’t think I’m superior or preach that everyone should stop posting. No. Nothing like that. It’s just I don’t want to, so I won’t. If you want to, you do you. You do whatever you want, whatever suits you. This is not a question of moral superiority, just our own personal preferences.

I found another parallel in music. I don’t take recommendations from anyone. No one except my two favourite people. Legit no one else. Do I think other people’s taste in music is inferior? No. Obviously not. They’d be listening to the same songs as us. But I don’t want to share that part of me. For no solid reason. Just because I don’t want to. It’s just some part of me that I’ve kept to myself and to the ones I love.

In one sentence I’d say: I don’t post because it’s just simpler that way.


8th September, 2023:

There’s something unnatural about curating all of one’s best moments, best smiles, best angles, best people and making a catalog of them and putting them out there. We humans are always a mix of the light and the dark, the good and the bad, the hard and the soft. The curation only allows for the light, the good, and the hard. It just doesn’t work that way. I can’t feel it working for me. I’d feel unnatural, artificial, fake of sorts. I don’t post because it’s just not human.

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Improv Comedy & Life Lessons

What is Improv, anyway?

Improvisational theatre, often called improvisation or improv, is the form of theatre, often comedy, in which most or all of what is performed is unplanned or unscripted: created spontaneously by the performers.

On the spot. On the stage. Unscripted. Imagine.


And Why Is It Supposed To Matter?

I read extensively on the internet about the concepts that can be taken away from improv comedy, and their preparatory games, and put to use in the way we think about our everyday lives. There is so much here that can be applied to everything from personal development to parenting to improving our relationships.

Putting everyday life and ideologies on trial, imagining variations on reality, and questioning the things we take for grantedโ€”all of these are more or less the same and very important strategies to widen our horizons and stretch our perspectives.

I don’t really remember how did I start reading about improv, but I guess, it’s only by following along these tangents that we can get to an awakening, right? Follow these tangential concepts, ride on the rainbow, and you’ll get your pot of good luck.


The One Single Takeaway: The “Yes, And” Approach

If someone were to ask me to mention ONE single thing to take away, then without a doubt my choice would be the “Yes, andโ€ฆ” Ideology. It is the most basic rule of improv.

“Yes, and…” thinking is a rule-of-thumb in improvisational comedy that suggests that a participant should accept what another participant has stated and then expand on that line of thinking.

No matter what your partner says during a scene, your job is to build on that, by agreeing with (“yes”) and adding to (“and”) their statement. To do improv successfully, you need to establish characters and plot through collaboration (“yes, and”) rather than negation (“no, but”).

Now how can we apply this to our relationships?

The primary rule is to see yourselves as two collaborating individuals. Yes. And then work towards something that would stretch your brains and broaden your possibilities.

Listening to and being receptive towards the other personโ€”be it your scene partner or your lab partner or your life partnerโ€”is really important. Actively listening to them, fully investing yourself in the moment and conversation. Because as Susan Messing said,

If you’re in your head then you’re not here with me.

Susan Messing

Further Reading:

Book recommendations from my side!

1) Training to Imagine:Practical Improvisational Theatre Techniques for Trainers and Managers to Enhance Creativity, Teamwork, Leadership, and Learning (by Kat Koppett)

2) Truth in Comedy: The Manual of Improvisation (by Charna Halpern, Del Close, and Kim Johnson)

(psst, if anyone would like to have the pdf versions of these books, I’d be happy to oblige! Let me know in the comments, or hit me up on email or Instagram.)


Bonus Quotes!

My fav improv quotes that apply to life:

No one looks stupid when they’re having fun.

โ€”Amy Poehler

The rules of improvisation apply beautifully to life. Never say no – you have to be interested to be interesting, and your job is to support your partners.

โ€” Scott Adsit

I love improvisation. You canโ€™t blame it on the writers. You canโ€™t blame it on direction. You canโ€™t blame it on the camera guyโ€ฆ Itโ€™s you. Youโ€™re on. Youโ€™ve got to do it, and you either sink or swim with what youโ€™ve got.

โ€” Jonathan Winters

The thing about improvisation is that itโ€™s not about what you say. Itโ€™s listening to what other people say. Itโ€™s about what you hear.

โ€”Paul Merton

Improv groups get stale when the members stop surprising each other.

โ€”Greg Triggs

Just say yes and youโ€™ll figure it out afterwards.

โ€”Tina Fey

If we treat each other as if we are geniuses, poets, and artists, we have a better chance of becoming that on stage.

โ€”Del Close

The fun is always on the other side of a yes.

โ€”Martin DeMatt

Improvisation is the art of being completely okay with not knowing what the f___ youโ€™re doing.

โ€”Mick Napier

TL;DR: Say yes, have fun, don’t worry!

Or as he said once, when we were playing a game of chess and I was stressing over each move:

Enjoy karo, blunder karo, mast raho!

My Boyfriend

Until next time! Take good care of yourself! Drink water! โค

:Dhriti.


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